don't overlook the value of building a good rapport

Most people don't use rapport properly. When used properly rapport is something that will help your social image reach new levels.

The bottom line is that most people don't TRULY care about the person who they are talking to.

These tips I am about to give you hold true for just about any conversation. Talking to your new neighbor at the mailbox. Flirting with the cute new secretary at work. Virtually any conversation where you want to leave a lasting impression of integrity and realness.

Basically this is really simple, what you need to do is take the mental frame of mind wanting to get to know the person. Be curious about them, maybe they know some hidden bit of knowledge you have been seeking for years.

One easy way to do this is to picture the person as being the next president or famous actor, or some person whom you respect and look up to.

For those of you who don't know, I am a VERY shy person by nature. But, when I took this technique into a real conversation with a person I just met, I had a far more meaningful conversation with them. In fact i ended up with some very valuable information for a new product, because they volunteered information about what they REALLY wanted out of a certain situation. Without using this method, a person would have just given the same canned response that has no meaning or depth to it.

Most conversations people have are almost scripted, they are simply formalities. they have no real meaning or purpose.

For example, I often here people respond "Not much" to the question of "how are you doing today". The worst part is the person asking will often reply with a useless "courtesy routine".

Remember this is an entirely mental method. The words that come out of your mouth may still be, "how are you doing today" but her response will now be something like "I am doing good, I had the greatest time this afternoon doing... etc etc", a response that has real meaning. This will leave a lasting impression in her/his mind as well. they will remember you in a positive way.

You will never know what you are missing out on if you do not take these tips into action. It's worth the little bit of extra effort. Worth every bit of it...
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The short training tip you just read was written by Jeff Bowerman. It was just an example some of the many skills you will learn in the "Conversation Fire" System by Mark Samet
Mark's system has been a lifesaver for me and for many other. It's your best chance at learning the hidden secrets to unstoppable charm & conversational mastery